Yep, I said it…the word so many of you dread and probably hope I never mention in a pole fitness class… sensuality. Surprisingly it is only a few who take pole dancing classes and honestly admit they are looking to get more touch with their sensuality. We all have it. Some of us just seem more in tune with it than others. Which leads me to ask the question, why? What was it that made us so insecure about our own beautiful, sexual energy?
At Wicked Fitness we realize this is a common issue, and often, clients are taking fitness classes to not only improve their over all health, but to boost confidence as well. And although we teach dance moves in pole fitness classes, I’m noticing the growing trend that it is easy to try and rush through them to get to the spins and tricks… the fun stuff. But did you know, the “dance” aspect of pole fitness is just as beautiful, empowering and challenging as the tricks aspect? Something as simple as the way you strut around the pole can be completely mesmerizing if done correctly. This is YOUR beauty. YOUR grand entrance. It sets the tone for everything else you are about to do. Something as simple as rolling your shoulders back and adding some hot sauce to your walk… such a minor detail can add so much to your routine.
So, you ask, where do I begin? For starters, SLOW DOWN. Going slow, whether it’s walking slow, or spinning slow, or dancing slow, or hitting a trick slowly, is so much harder than going fast. It forces you to use more muscle control. It also allows you to steady your mind for a minute and get lost in the music. We have all heard the saying “Dance like no one is watching”, but I have learned in life in general, we don’t really know how to do that anymore. We have become a society that is so fearful of judgment and scrutiny; we’ve become practically afraid of ourselves. Have any of you ever gone into a room, by yourself, and thought, “Let me just try this in front of the mirror” only to quickly follow it up with your next thought, “Let me stop, I look ridiculous” or “well, that doesn’t look the way I pictured it”. But what are you really stopping for….. NO ONE IS WATCHING YOU BUT YOU! But we don’t like it. It’s not visually appealing to us, so we stop and chalk it up to it not being our move, and move on. But the problem is rooted so much deeper than just in the move. It’s our mind set that really needs the fixing.
Anything that you have the desire to change, you can. Yes, it really is that simple. We have become so accustomed to making excuses for everything in our lives. Everything from, “I want a better job, but I can’t because…” “I want my relationship to be stronger but it won’t be because….” “I want to be in better shape, but it’s hard for me because….” “My body will never move like that because….” And we have excuse after excuse, after excuse. Well, I can let you in on a little secret. YES, it can. If there is something you would like to be different in your life, YOU do have the power to change it. Especially when it comes to your body and the way it moves. It’s simple. Your body is made of muscles. If you train those muscles to do what you want them to do, then they will. So, yes, you can move your body that way. Maybe not the first time you try, but like anything, the more you stick with it, the better you will become.
I have had the pleasure of training women who at one time couldn’t even stand to look at themselves dance in front of a mirror. They were completely ashamed, and embarrassed at how in their mind their bodies moved so awkwardly. But guess what? They stuck with it, and the transformation that took place was amazing! Like a butterfly finding the beauty in fluttering new wings. And suddenly others are watching them dance, in that same mindset our butterfly used to have thinking, “she is so graceful and moves with such sensuality and confidence…but my body will never move like that because…”
Stick with it and LET GO. Let go of how you think you look. Let go of the thinking that the person next to you must be judging you. Because I can almost guarantee that same person is thinking the same thing about you. Focus on yourself. Somewhere, maybe deeper down for some of us than others, there is a Queen. She is beautiful, and powerful, and a confident sensual being. She has not forgotten you, although you may have forgotten her. She is dying to spread her wings! But it’s up to you to give her the opportunity.